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Turning 40 in 2024

In my last podcast episode, I sat down with Sally Jean Fox, PhD to discuss her book: Meeting the Muse After Midlife: A Journey to Meaning, Creativity, and Joy. This beautiful memoir discusses embracing the second-half of life. Check it out here:

I turn 40 in 2024! This means it is time to write another life summary. Every 10 years, I enjoy writing a synopsis of the decade. Have you ever written down notes about your life and what was learned along the way? It is a unique activity that can be passed through the generations. Try it out sometime and let me know what you think!


When I last wrote a summary at age 29, the achievement-based words dominate the text. For example, titles such as: “Health Care Provider”, “Flutist”,“Ivy-League.” I thought if I stacked up enough accomplishments, maybe then I would be worthy. Or I would feel good enough. However, I overlooked what truly matters and denied myself compassion and love.

On Sally Jean Fox’s website, there is a picture of a non-linear arrow that symbolizes our life’s journey. We discuss this image on our podcast episode and how perfection is an illusion.

“If the ladder is not leaning against the right wall, every step you take just takes you to the wrong place faster.” Stephen Covey

When I was younger, I felt pressured to place my ladder of success on my resume. However, what is this elusive wall? Covey describes the wall you ascend as your values.  Not your career or someone else’s desires for you.


What are values? For example, the activities where time ceases to exist while immersed in doing something you love. What makes you come alive? Remember when you fill your cup what overflows can be given to others.

For me, I love history, learning, and travel. Here is a picture of me writing in Portsmouth, New Hampshire at the Strawbery Banke Museum. Which is amazing if you like history :)

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